So I have joined work here and Angel is almost settled in
her new day care. The settling took four weeks and still counting. It was a big
change for her. Back home she used to go to school only for 2.5 hours and here
she complained that “home time” comes after so much time. At one point she even
said that I don’t like schools in Canada, let’s go back to Bangalore to my old
school and it broke my heart to a thousand pieces. As I have mentioned earlier,
I felt bad for her even before we moved, as she HAD to tag along with us
wherever we went and we do whatever we feel is best for all of us. Gradually,
with every passing day, she is getting there. She now tells me the new songs
that she has learnt, the activities she did, the names of her new friends, who
does what and so on.
I can watch her from anywhere, thanks to the technology. I
sometimes see another child snatching a toy that she is playing with. She tries
to save it, and when she couldn’t do it anymore, she gives up and without
getting bothered starts playing with something else. Similarly, the other day she
told me that J pushed me twice during the outdoor time. I asked her did you
push him too and she replied that I don’t push anyone as it’s not right. I patted
her back and then told her to tell J not to push you and she defended him and
gave me three reasons – 1. He just pushed me lightly 2. I was okay after that
3. He is my friend and he was just being silly. I leave her at that to fight
her own battles. At the same time, I also wonder if it’s okay to be this forgiving
or am I missing something to teach her. What do you think?
