Caught You!!

Me : Am I looking FAT in this dress?

J* : You are NOT fat.

Me : That means I am looking fat!!  :-/

Poor guys! There is no correct answer to this question! ;-)

So that I remember…

28^th July, 2011

5:55PM

This is for my personal record, so you can skip this post.

I am writing this from Hyderabad Airport, waiting for my flight which is 1.5 hours from now and desperately trying to connect to Wi-Fi. Sadly, I have not succeeded in connecting so far. I am here for some official work. The reason why I want to remember this is because this is for the first time I am on a completely paid trip from office and also this is my first official trip, although I hoped and wished that my first official trip would be abroad, only if wishes were horses!

I used to think that it must be great fun to be on a fully paid trip, but now my thinking has definitely changed. Of course, it was a great learning experience, but it was hectic and tiring. I am here along with my manager. We started yesterday at 6:15 in the morning from my place for an 8:30 flight, went directly to the client office from the airport which by the way is a good 70kms from the airport. Had a long, long day, could touch the guest house only by 8:30pm. The room was a very spacious one with all the facilities, I was tired, but was not able to sleep, I don’t know maybe because of the anxiety. I have never seen a hotel room all for myself and I had forgotten when did I sleep alone in a room, was watching mindless television soaps till 11 pm, I think I slept by midnight. In the morning, again after ages, I woke up before my alarm buzzed! I was amazed at myself, as I love sleeping and I always snooze my alarm at least thrice before I get up. I got up at 6 and did nothing for another one and a half hours which is again very unlike me :O

Then got ready, left for the client office at 8:30, spent another day in trainings, etc. and left it at 4 and now I am here. This week had been insanely hectic for me. We had gone to J*’s native last Friday and returned on Monday late in the night, left for office on Tuesday on the usual time, that is, 7:30 AM, I have already written my schedule for yesterday and today with elaborate details and since I have got a lot of inputs from the customer, I am sure, I will be immensely busy tomorrow. Its good that MIL came along with us this time, and J* is not alone at home, he is not feeling well today.  I have never waited for a weekend so desperately as I am doing now!

Why am I writing about it in such a detailed manner, because now if I see someone on an official trip, I will come back and read this and would know that its not fun always.  :P

Double Standards? Not Really!!

Recently, I was talking to someone who commented that “Women are too easily impressed by chivalry”

He further accused us for double standards and went on to say that on one hand we talk about gender equality and on the other hand we expect the little favours to come our way due to our genders.

Now I would beg to differ. I don’t want to get into the debate on gender equality, because women are superior anyways! :) I will save the proofs probably for some another post.

Anyways, I will be able to prove my point better with some examples. Just ponder over the below scenarios:

Situation 1 – When I am a little late for a meeting/training and all the chairs are occupied, I don’t expect anyone to get up and offer me their seat, but when I am struggling to bring a chair through a self closing door, I just want someone to help me do this and not just sit there like statues watching me struggle!

Situation 2 – When I get into an over crowded bus, I don’t expect someone to get up and offer me their seat, but I do want them to leave their seats when they see an elderly person or a pregnant lady who is finding it difficult to manage!

Situation 3 – I don’t expect someone to hold the door for me every time, I have hands, I can do it myself,  but when I am right behind someone who just passed by the self closing door, I expect him to pause and hold the door a few seconds longer so that it won’t bang right into my face! I do the same for men/women behind me.

Now its basic courtesy and etiquettes that everyone should follow regardless of their genders without a second thought, but sadly, very few practice it.

So in today’s world which is so intolerant, these little signs of kindness always feel good and we are drawn towards that thoughtful person, and if this is what you call double standards, its time for a vocabulary check!