Double Standards? Not Really!!

Recently, I was talking to someone who commented that “Women are too easily impressed by chivalry”

He further accused us for double standards and went on to say that on one hand we talk about gender equality and on the other hand we expect the little favours to come our way due to our genders.

Now I would beg to differ. I don’t want to get into the debate on gender equality, because women are superior anyways! :) I will save the proofs probably for some another post.

Anyways, I will be able to prove my point better with some examples. Just ponder over the below scenarios:

Situation 1 – When I am a little late for a meeting/training and all the chairs are occupied, I don’t expect anyone to get up and offer me their seat, but when I am struggling to bring a chair through a self closing door, I just want someone to help me do this and not just sit there like statues watching me struggle!

Situation 2 – When I get into an over crowded bus, I don’t expect someone to get up and offer me their seat, but I do want them to leave their seats when they see an elderly person or a pregnant lady who is finding it difficult to manage!

Situation 3 – I don’t expect someone to hold the door for me every time, I have hands, I can do it myself,  but when I am right behind someone who just passed by the self closing door, I expect him to pause and hold the door a few seconds longer so that it won’t bang right into my face! I do the same for men/women behind me.

Now its basic courtesy and etiquettes that everyone should follow regardless of their genders without a second thought, but sadly, very few practice it.

So in today’s world which is so intolerant, these little signs of kindness always feel good and we are drawn towards that thoughtful person, and if this is what you call double standards, its time for a vocabulary check!