TRANSFORMATION

Here, I am talking about my transformation from a girl to a woman, that is, my life pre and post marriage!

I was the first among my friends to get married and I loved all the attention and Ahhhhs and Ohhhhs that I got  

Many of them got married within six months after my marriage but that’s a different story altogether.

Below are the few differences that are popping into my mind right now, not in any particular order:

1.  Previously, I was a “Didi”, now, the moment they see my sindoor/mangalsutra (sacred symbols of Hindu marriage) I become an “Aunty” (which I find very funny) , especially with the maids, doesn’t matter if they are the age of my mother, I am still an “Aunty” .

2.     I was working in Pune before, which is closer to my parents’ place, so I used to run home whenever I wanted. Now, I’ve moved to Bangalore. The distance has increased which has decreased my frequency of going to my native. (I haven’t been there since March ) This is the only major difference.


3. My cooking skills have improved greatly  and when someone compliments me for it, my day is made!

4.  My relatives have doubled and so have my friends and I am loving this change. Earlier, I had one set of parents, now I have two and so goes for other relations as well! Apart from it, I am somebody’s daughter-in-law, sister-in-law, bhabhi, mami and what not.  J*'s friends are in my list of friends as well. In fact, they were the people who made me comfortable in this city which was new for me then.

 5.       A lot many aunties have started harassing teasing simply asking that “When’s the good news? *Wink*”.  For the uninitiated, it means that when am I going to bring a new member into our family, which at times is very irritating.  With time, I have become used to it and I feel its harmless, its just their way of starting/continuing the conversation (or probably they too were harassed asked the same way and they are just continuing the trend )

6.      Previously, life was carefree and responsibility-free.  (Things like cooking, cleaning, maids were never on my list) Now, I have responsibilities, which of course I share. I am blessed with a husband who understands that even I get tired (and when I am tired I tend to be cranky), who bears my mood swings and cranky behaviour. He helps me with my chores and since he has a great sense of humour, everything becomes fun.

PS : None of my friends can bear my mood swings, so I guess, post marital life is better since I can be as cranky as I want

7.       No major transformation in either mine or J*’s weight which is met with a lot of exclamations. Many people tell us “You have not gained weight” or “You are looking slimmer” stressing “AFTER MARRIAGE” and we are given sympathies (I can feel that!) Come on, I was a bunch of lazy bones and J* is a lot more conscious about fitness and he makes a point that we eat healthy, go for walks and do Yoga/Pranayama in our day to day life and it shows. I like a fitter me and J*

8. I always used to ponder that why do people get married, because of love, family pressure, society pressure, frustration or whatever. I guess I now know that why the married people want the unmarried ones to get hooked. At least I want some of my single friends to get married. Its BEAUTIFUL and fun!

Apart from it, nothing much has changed. I am still in contact with old friends, I still love sleeping and Sun still rises from the East!

Do I miss my earlier life, well, sometimes I do.. but isn’t it human tendency? When in college, we miss our school life, when in corporate world, we miss the college days and so on.. So I believe it to be natural and harmless!

However, on a calm evening and with a calm mind, if I look back, I conclude that I was happy then and I am happier now!!