Monday, August 17, 2015

Love

Ever since Angel was young, we play this game. I sternly take her name and when she acknowledges, I say I love you and we have a hearty laugh after that. And she does the same, shouts and calls me from another room and when I go, she says I love you mamma!

It’s quite a westernized concept saying I love you aloud to your children and I love it. I don't remember my parents saying it aloud to us, it is like air. Just like the way we know that it exists, we know that they love us. But good words never hurt and it’s always pleasing to the ears.

So one day while doing the same, I asked her “why do you think I love you, baby?”  Her exact words were “kyunki main good behavior karti hu”. I was shocked as I never wanted to give that message to her. Maybe I said I love you to her only when she was behaving nicely. So we sat I explained to her that I love you because you are my child and no matter what happens, I love you. Even if you behave badly, nicely, naughtily, I always love you. I want her to understand that she can come to us no matter what the situation is. I want her to know that there is one place in the whole world where she will always be wanted and loved.

Now we have started saying “I love you, no matter what” to each other and at times we revise the meaning of this phrase. Gradually, we have got a hang of it. So a few days back when I was scolding her, she stopped me and asked, “Do you still love me, while you are scolding me?” When I replied in affirmative, there was a wide grin on her face and she said, “ok, continue scolding.” :P

Again after a few days, I asked her, why do I love you and she replied, “Because I am your baby.”


Mission accomplished!

7 comments:

Niladri Shekhar Roy said...

Lovely... The last phrase was really cute "do u still live me when you are scolding"...

Unknown said...

She is just a little cutie bug..😘all msg she is very well understood and replied to u.. Senha keep posted more so I can know her childhood..missing all of u .. Specially LO Oju..

Unknown said...

Great blog! It's amazing how kids associate their feelings with things or action. Sometimes I wonder why am I scared of certain stuff or why can't I even think of eating non-veg, the answer I get is that there are certain emotions I have associated to things when I was a baby and I still can't change it as an adult. It's great that you changed her thought of why you love her.. Great job mommy!!!

Unknown said...

She is just amazing! Give truck loads of love to my apple pie!

Reflections said...

@Niladri : Thanks, good to know that you are still around :)

@Ashima : Sure, I will. Thanks!

@Manali : Thanks! That's right, that's why I believe that the first five years of a child's life are most important. Hope Anaya is doing good.

@Naini : I will, she remembers you when she colors in the book gifted by you :)

Teena said...

lovely lovely and too good... wowwww sneha .... i love u too ojas baby just like ur mommy but obvionot more than her... :-*,:-*

Reflections said...

@Teena: Awww.. Thanks a ton!