Caught Again!

Prequel here.

 We were discussing about the (dreaded) weight issues.

J* who probably was in a good mood said: On this day, at this point in time, you are not fat, you are perfect!
Me: Does that mean that I was fat at some point in time?

Poor guys! They are still looking for a perfect answer to this question :P

Needless to say, I never get bored of putting him in such tight spots *Evil laughter*

 

Caught You!!

Me : Am I looking FAT in this dress?

J* : You are NOT fat.

Me : That means I am looking fat!!  :-/

Poor guys! There is no correct answer to this question! ;-)

Bidding Adieu to 2010

2010 was a memorable year for me in many ways. It started with a high and also ended with one (and everything in between was also on a high J )

With 2010, I welcomed J* into my life. We got to know each other in and out during this time. When I moved to Bangalore, the first task was to set up a home. Setting up a home was fun and exhausting at the same time. We lovingly converted a house to our home. During all this, we had our share of differences, fights, ruthna-manana and all.. but it goes without saying that there was a lot of love too (I think fights between couples are a must J ) But even with all these differences J* is perfect for me (J*, in case you are reading this, I am just too good for you, okay ;-) ).

2010 has a lot of family time as well. During the year, I was grabbing all the attention at my in-laws’ place as a “nayi bahu”.(Even after an year, I am still treated as a newly wed there and people are coming to meet me and I love it!).  All the year either we were travelling home or folks were coming to visit us. We went to J*’s native thrice and to my place once, the other time I went alone when J* went onsite for around 15-20 days. That was the only time during the year when we were apart. Then, my in laws visited us, my parents and brother came. My didi has now come to permanently settle here. As they are staying with us for a while, we had a blast during Christmas and New Year as well with them. With so much time spent in the company of family members, time just flied and before I realized the year was over.

I also travelled abroad for the first time this year. J* had an onsite and I tagged along :P We were there for around 2 months and I thoroughly enjoyed it. I would definitely love to be there again. We booked our two-wheeler and four-wheeler this year (None of them have arrived yet, but are expected soon). We also celebrated our first anniversary this December.

Overall, the year has been extremely good. I don’t think that it could have been any better than this, but then all I want is everything J So here’s hoping for an even better and successful 2011. Have a beautiful 2011!!

(PS – I just realized that I have written J* and about J* ‘n’ number of times in this post. Well that is because, he has been the highlight of the year for me J )

D(iwali) Day!

I am just back from a fun filled trip home.  I had a very hectic last month, will spare you the details, probably, for another post. Although we went to J~’s native, I like it calling MY home (which is true in a way).  Since this was my 1^st Diwali after my marriage, everyone back home (and me too) was eagerly waiting for this. We reached home a week before Diwali and left the next day of Diwali, so had plenty of time to spend there. I relished on a lot of mouth-watering chaats there almost every day! (Justification being - we cannot get the same ones here in Bangalore ) I shopped a lot, gobbled homemade sweets made by my MIL, did a lot of masti with Didi-Jiju(J~’s elder sister and BIL) and their daughter little N(I am really fond of them. Both Didi & Jiju are really chilled out, so the equation we share is not like that of a typical household wherein you are not really free in front of your in-laws, while mine are superb. The best thing about them is the feeling of belongingness they make you feel. Ever since I got married I have never felt that these are the new relations of my life, I feel that I have known them for ages. Same goes for my MIL and FIL as well & I thank God from the bottom of my heart for getting me married into such a beautiful family).  I also visited my MIL’s native which is a small town, some 80 kms from home. There, I met a lot of relatives of mine and got pampered a lot there & and in the whole trip as well

Coming back to Diwali, I along with K (J~’s younger sister, who is again one chilled out lass) shopped for Diyas and Rangolis for Diwali. K made a beautiful & colourful rangoli of Swastika.

Since J~(& eventually me) belong to Arya Samaj, the basic rituals which are followed at my parents’ place & here were quite different.  Since Arya Samaj does not preach idol worship, this was my first Diwali which went without laxmi pujan, instead we did havan in the evening (which I loved and I plan to do it all by myself someday!)  I have attended havans before but a few extra things were done since this was my first marital year.

In the evening, everyone changed to their new clothes. I love to wear sari occasionally and I am always looking forward to wear one, so what better excuse to wear a sari than Diwali. So I wore a heavy green coloured sari (with the help of my MIL )  along with which I wore some of my wedding jewellery

Me and J~ started for our relatives’ place but ended up in a restaurant to gobble something. (Which we found after a lot of searching since the whole city was closed because of Diwali). After returning home, we started bursting crackers with little N. It was fun but I found it a little odd bursting crackers in a sari . Finally, we relished the mouth watering kheer made by MIL.

All in all, a wonderful Diwali celebration. 10 on 10 for my first Diwali after marriage

TRANSFORMATION

Here, I am talking about my transformation from a girl to a woman, that is, my life pre and post marriage!

I was the first among my friends to get married and I loved all the attention and Ahhhhs and Ohhhhs that I got  

Many of them got married within six months after my marriage but that’s a different story altogether.

Below are the few differences that are popping into my mind right now, not in any particular order:

1.  Previously, I was a “Didi”, now, the moment they see my sindoor/mangalsutra (sacred symbols of Hindu marriage) I become an “Aunty” (which I find very funny) , especially with the maids, doesn’t matter if they are the age of my mother, I am still an “Aunty” .

2.     I was working in Pune before, which is closer to my parents’ place, so I used to run home whenever I wanted. Now, I’ve moved to Bangalore. The distance has increased which has decreased my frequency of going to my native. (I haven’t been there since March ) This is the only major difference.


3. My cooking skills have improved greatly  and when someone compliments me for it, my day is made!

4.  My relatives have doubled and so have my friends and I am loving this change. Earlier, I had one set of parents, now I have two and so goes for other relations as well! Apart from it, I am somebody’s daughter-in-law, sister-in-law, bhabhi, mami and what not.  J*'s friends are in my list of friends as well. In fact, they were the people who made me comfortable in this city which was new for me then.

 5.       A lot many aunties have started harassing teasing simply asking that “When’s the good news? *Wink*”.  For the uninitiated, it means that when am I going to bring a new member into our family, which at times is very irritating.  With time, I have become used to it and I feel its harmless, its just their way of starting/continuing the conversation (or probably they too were harassed asked the same way and they are just continuing the trend )

6.      Previously, life was carefree and responsibility-free.  (Things like cooking, cleaning, maids were never on my list) Now, I have responsibilities, which of course I share. I am blessed with a husband who understands that even I get tired (and when I am tired I tend to be cranky), who bears my mood swings and cranky behaviour. He helps me with my chores and since he has a great sense of humour, everything becomes fun.

PS : None of my friends can bear my mood swings, so I guess, post marital life is better since I can be as cranky as I want

7.       No major transformation in either mine or J*’s weight which is met with a lot of exclamations. Many people tell us “You have not gained weight” or “You are looking slimmer” stressing “AFTER MARRIAGE” and we are given sympathies (I can feel that!) Come on, I was a bunch of lazy bones and J* is a lot more conscious about fitness and he makes a point that we eat healthy, go for walks and do Yoga/Pranayama in our day to day life and it shows. I like a fitter me and J*

8. I always used to ponder that why do people get married, because of love, family pressure, society pressure, frustration or whatever. I guess I now know that why the married people want the unmarried ones to get hooked. At least I want some of my single friends to get married. Its BEAUTIFUL and fun!

Apart from it, nothing much has changed. I am still in contact with old friends, I still love sleeping and Sun still rises from the East!

Do I miss my earlier life, well, sometimes I do.. but isn’t it human tendency? When in college, we miss our school life, when in corporate world, we miss the college days and so on.. So I believe it to be natural and harmless!

However, on a calm evening and with a calm mind, if I look back, I conclude that I was happy then and I am happier now!!